“Why does this always happen to me?”
“What have I done to deserve this?”
How many times have you said or thought that? A lot. If you haven’t then good for you but a lot of people I know including myself have thought about that a lot.
That’s the thing; we think that only we are given the toughest of decisions, the crappiest of results and the worst life we could ask for. We think that it’s unjust that such expectations, results, situations and people are put into our lives. It’s unfair that we’re left in such a bad spot in life right? Especially when you think that you haven’t done anything to deserve this kind of treatment or judgement or hopelessness.
I used to think that too.
But then I remembered something that I heard in the church to which one of my best friends took me to. What the pastor spoke about made a lot of sense, at least it did to me. It made me feel better about my “messed up” life.
He said that sometimes just when we’ve come out of one problem, we are put into a worse one. This is when we start questioning everything. Question our existence, question our worth, question our beliefs, question the universe, question the people we love and care about and question ourselves. Believers of a higher power would begin to question their loyalty and faith.
He said that this is what the negative forces in life or as he termed it: the demonic spirits want us to think. They strive in negative atmospheres and try to create as much chaos in our lives as possible. They want your faith to be shattered, your beliefs to be questioned, your loyalties to waver. He continued saying that when you’ve survived one illness or one situation, you are sometimes put into a worse one next. That’s because once the demonic spirit has seen you survive and has seen your faith in the good restored their purpose diminishes. In order to restore its power over you, it roams over dry land and brings with it seven other such negative and more chaotic spirits. These come in the form of people, situations, diseases, accidents, disasters, tragedies and traumas.
This is when our once strong faith, belief or loyalty may be pushed to breaking point. We lose hope. We lose our balance. We start to believe that we truly are doomed and that there’s no scope for improvement.
This, according to the pastor is what the negative forces in life want you to believe. They want you to believe and accept that you have no control over your own life.
So what do you do? How do you overcome such horrible circumstances?
You have to fight back. You have to believe in yourself even if it costs you every last ounce of your strength. You have to continue believing in your principles and in a higher power.
You aren’t thrown into such situations because you deserve it or because you “aren’t meant to be” happy. Such circumstances are put forth because you have the strength to handle it. It is not an excuse for whatever you’re facing. Nothing justifies it whatsoever. But you have to take it as a test of your faith, loyalty and character. Lean on yourself if you don’t think you have anyone else. Face your battles. Push through. Fight it out.
You have to remember that you are NOT a victim. You are a survivor. You are capable of handling this. You are strong. You will win. You will come out of it stronger.
Repeat those words even if you don’t believe them. You eventually will.
That’s the true test of your spirit. Well, that’s what I want to believe anyway.
“A diamond is just a piece of coal that did well under pressure.”
